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Inferiority complex is a widespread characteristic and a common theme —someway somehow, everyone goes through the state of lacking confidence, feeling low about ourselves for a “special” someone or group of people’s beauty, happiness, knowledge, attention, respect, fame, and so on.
Alfred Adler (1870 – 1937), an Austrian medical doctor, psychotherapist coined the term Inferiority complex. His theory proved that it is a sense of inferiority about oneself, the feeling of being low in esteem and standard.
Our worth influences growth personally, and inability to control our sense of inferiority affects our life or the way we perceive the world around us. The way we look at ourselves and in comparison with others, or when others talk us down and make fun of our physique or appearance, social status, level of thoughts, race or religion, and personal life and misopportunities: For example, “he is so short”, “she is black” , “LGBTA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender/Transsexual, and Asexual) have no place among us”, “Muslim women are slaves — that’s why they are forced to wear hijab” — and other reasons’ triggers the sense of inferiority in us individually or in/as a group. The effect of inferiority complex is seen when we try to copy others lifestyle as if that’s who we are —or when we live unhappily to the definition that the society wants us to be.
While others feel down or hurt about who they are, about the judgment on them, to most people, the feeling of inferiority helps them to work on becoming better every day. Inferiority complex is also seen when we lack the confidence to grab the opportunities that are benefits. We see inferiority complex in our difficulties to move on or away from the circle that does not accept us.
Nature offers the simplest form of joy, peace, motivation and comfort — so if you are thinking of finding inspiration in yourself or the nature around you — do. Swim in the ocean if you must. Go hiking. Climb mountains: Look at how the trees spread on the land. See the beauty of the blue sky and all that nature exist to be. See as the land spread across the earth. Nature is a great reminder that Gods creation is beautiful and that’s why we are usually awed by the scenery of nature.
Albert Einstein’s quote on nature says, “look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better”.
Or Osho who said, Look at the trees, look at the birds, look at the stars and if you have eyes you will be able to see that the whole existence is joyful. Everything is simply happy. Tress are happy for no reason; they are not going to become prime ministers or presidents and they are not going to be rich and they will never have any bank balance. Look at the flowers — for no reason. It is simply unbelievable how happy flowers are.
Enough said, this article is for the people that treat themselves lesser than they should, this one’s for those who feel down or less of/about themselves: 5 inspiration from nature to fight inferiority complex.
1. Find Happiness in You and Nature.
Do you see the greatness of the sun when it shines? Do you see the serene night when the moon and stars come out at night? Just like nature, find happiness in yourself and everything that you are.
Accept yourself before others judgment. Treat yourself with self-compassion and self-love. Love yourself enough to be compassionate to yourself. Treat what you own with great love because it is good for you. Stop searching for the group to make you feel wanted or accepted. Wrap your hands around yourself if nobody cares enough to do that for you. Be happy with your nature, don’t trade you for nothing.
2. Cherish your beauty, weaknesses and Strengths.
Stop the comparison. Stop competing and start living. “You don’t have to be them before you get there. You don’t have to roll with anybody or a group before you become great.” Find pride in yourself, in your achievement and your nature. Be content with all that is made for you or all that you own. Comparing yourself will only allow you to see those who are superior than you are, and to such reason, make you feel inferior about yourself. See yourself big even if the sky is impossible to reach. Cherish your beauty when no one sees you.
3. Like the blue sky, Be content with your space.
Stop trying hard to connect when no one is willing to respect you for who you are. The sky doesn’t bow to the earth due to its nature. Vastly, both are mightier in their nature. Be content with those things you can’t change —they are blessings, be content with yourself, your happiness and achievement.
4. Find comfort in Nature.
Whatever the gender, the height or weight —whatever that you are, find comfort in yourself. When every tree around you is created to be taller than you are, if the sun doesn’t shine on you as it shines brightly on others, if nature failed you, none of these matters — take your attention from these, you wont find comfort in looking down on yourself. What matters the most is how you are able to spend your moments; Playing in the rain, swimming in the ocean, taking long walks on the beach. How you are able to go on adventures around nature. How you are able to survive through the dark nights and suns heat.
5. Quit the competition, Exist marvelously.
There’s no superiority between the land and sea, both are mysteriously superior — even more than human knowledge. There’s no superiority between the mind and the head (or the brain); kill the mind, and the brain will live stupid and dumb than a stone that is told to roll or throw itself; kill the brain or the head, and the mind wouldn’t live to see another light or day — the mind will live like a madman which is worse than living.
The mountain doesn’t feel less of itself even if the sky is impossible for it to reach. Mountains don’t feel any reason to compete with stones or vice versa — do not feel less of yourself when you become scared of the height higher than the ground or earth level. Quit every competition that are nonbeneficial. Spend that time challenging yourself. Improve your craft to become better every day. Do not live as another person that you’re not — that’s just a waste of time and a waste of who you are or the greatness that you can be/become.
If nobody sees your worth and dreams — assuming everybody told you the best news your ears want to listen to, or they criticize you, it won’t add to your growth because you’re fertile. You’re fertile because you need you, your courage, strength and light to flourish. You need every bit of confidence so you can flourish in whatever comfort you seek. No one has to see you live in the sun when the sun is the best comfort you need. Do not cease to exist, do not cease to live in the sun and comfort while trying to prove your existence to those you believe are superior —don’t do that.
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